Category Archives: Random Rants

place for all my random rants about stuff that probably doesnt mean anything but it’s in my head a needs a place to go.

Body Posi VS Fat Posi

I’ve done a similar blog about this earlier this year however it keeps coming around so I feel I need to make this point…. Again.

Note: I’m not censoring names. Fuck y’all.

I’ve also had a large section of this saved in my drafts for a good two weeks.

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Problematic Fave & Their Fan-Base

I want to preface this blog post with some notes.

  • I won’t be naming names.  If you read this and know exactly who I’m referencing, I politely ask you don’t comment/tweet with their name.
  • I had receipts on my browser and now I have to re-find them because everything crashed and I had to restore the factory settings – as I find them again, I will add them.
  • When I refer to this person’s fandom; I mean it as a generalisation and not a “everyone in the fandom is like this!”  I have friends in the fandom and they’ve been great with explaining certain things and even greater and understanding the POV from others.
  • This YT-er’s fan base is quite young; MOSTLY early to mid teens.  This is important to remember.
  • I DO NOT, under ANY circumstances, believe that this YT-er is a paedophile. I AM NOT accusing them of that offence.

Read on after the jump for more.

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Blood Means Nothing

I will preface this with a CW.

There’s a lot of pent-up anger directed at two family members in this post.

Like… A lot; bordering on rage.

So the entire thing will go behind a cut.

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The Dark Side of BoPo Community – Elitists

I have considered myself a firm member of the body positive community for a rather long time.  I underatand where it came from, how it started and why it was needed.

The rest of this post is going to talk about and weight loss so there’s your content warning and here is the jump…

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Weight Loss & Body Positivity

I want to preface this with a content warning and place it all under a cut as it does deal with weight loss and as someone who still fights an eating disorder – I understand.  So PLEASE, if you feel this post will trigger you in ANY way, don’t read on.  I totally get it and understand.  
Recovery is always possible and attainable.

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Not Disabled Enough…?

I haven’t actually written about my disabilities and how they impact my day to day life for a while.  This isn’t because they haven’t been affecting me, but simply because when I’ve passed comments I’ve found that certain areas of the disabled community (and society…. I’ll get there) seem to think it’s a competition of some sort and that some people just aren’t “disabled enough”;  for what exactly I’m not 100% sure.

What I am sure about is that just because I don’t “look disabled” doesn’t mean my disability can be written off or ignored & invalidated and when I say the words “I am disabled”, I shouldn’t have to prove it to anyone.

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RIP Beauty Standards [#BodyPositivityForAll]

Quite a harsh title, I’ll give you that… However it should be true. 

This blog started as one thing and turned into a battle cry of sorts…. But I am legitimately not upset about that… Keep reading…

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Conditioned to Accept Predatory Behaviour?

Now I know for an absolute fact, there are people out there who will read this and laugh, maybe tell me I’m taking things “too seriously” or I’m “looking into things too much” – That’s fine; fun fact is I like to read between the lines and outside the box and a small clip that showed up on my twitter TL, smacked me in the face with a very real thought – it’s specifically about one particular cartoon.  Yes you read that right, cartoon.

Curious?  then read on!

TW: Sexual Harassment/Abuse

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The War on …. NIPPLES

Today has been quite the eye opener for me; I know the war on [female] nipples has been waging for quite a while across Facebook and Instagram… Not so much on twitter as long as your tweets are protected… But I guess I had kidded myself that it really wasn’t that bad and maybe… Just maybe, we had made a little progress.  Boy was I wrong.
TW; rape, violence, animal cruelty.
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I opened my Facebook today to check out the goings on and what-not and am greeted by four posts from various animal rights pages containing graphic videos and images of animal cruelty. The video auto played and I will not ever get those sounds or images out of my head. 

Just so you can get an idea (skip past the italicised text to skip the description)

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A [live] dog was hung from a tree by its neck, set on fire and beaten. I cannot actually describe the sounds the poor animal was making but they will be engrained on my brain forevermore.  The pictures were of skinned animals, Fox hunts, A butcher doing his job, A slaughter house.

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I checked out each page these came from.and found more of the same; due to the graphic nature (and trust me I left out A LOT in that little description) I reported the pages and the posts.  I was 100% sure that they violated t&c of Facebook.

I was horribly mistaken.  What does this have to do with nipples? I’m getting there, please bare with me… (No pun intended).

I spend a lot of today researching and looking through pages, the contents of which I need bleach to eradicate from my brain, finding that not one of them violated the t&c.  

So I posted a picture of a nipple. Was it male or female? Who knows? It took exactly four minutes for it to be reported and taken down for nudity and sexual content.

I reposted. More of the same.

Instagram is very similar – they DO remove animal cruelty and some nudity and sexual content but only if the page is public. 

Over the course of today I found that across Instagram and Facebook you are totally allowed to comment about, talk about, discuss and in some cases threaten the following … (But not limited to..)

  • Sexual abuse/threats of sexual violence.
  • Animal cruelty incl explicit pictures and videos, groups & pages.
  • You can be as racist as you like.
  • Pledge allegiance to Hitler/Neo Nazis/White Supremacists/Trump.
  • Pledge allegiance to the KKK.
  • Sympathise with rapists.
  • Post pictures of [graphic] self harm.
  • Join the Westboro Baptist Church.
  • Join a cult.
  • Praise Satan.
  • Be underage flashing flesh and talking sexually with older men/women.
  • Openly post about what drugs you have taken.
  • Talk about crimes you have committed. 
  • Body shame.
  • Be sexist.
  • Be homophobic.
  • Catfish/steal an identity.

However….all of these break t&c, and over the space of the day I’ve talked to many who have reported posts with all these subjects including hate speech and threats of violence.  Not one of the posts were removed and I myself had a four hour “soft ban” on my Facebook where I couldn’t reply to anything /post anything for abusing the report function on posts and posting sexually suggestive pictures I.E. the nipple. Oh you also can’t post any uncencored pictures of breast feeding as that is also seen as sexually suggestive content.

I read an awesome comment on tumblr at the weekend and for the life of me I cannot find it now… “Surely it is men’s nipples that are sexually suggestive as their only function is sexual arousal, whereas a female’s nipples, first and foremost, are used to feed her child and are a sex organ second?”

The whole “war on female nipples” or “nipplegate” is just the sexualization of a female body part that is primarily used to feed our young and only secondary are they a sex organ.  The fact that breastfeeding is seen as sexually suggestive disgusts me. There is nothing sexual about a mother nourishing her child… There’s also nothing more natural.

So you go ahead Facebook and Instagram… Continue to let people be racist/homophobic, let them bully, let them post vulgar and graphic content including dick pics, self harm, animal cruelty etc… 

But beware people…

Don’t EVER post a nipple or the world will collapse in on itself… Because obviously it’s the female nipple that is the root of all evil.