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Body Posi VS Fat Posi

I’ve done a similar blog about this earlier this year however it keeps coming around so I feel I need to make this point…. Again.

Note: I’m not censoring names. Fuck y’all.

I’ve also had a large section of this saved in my drafts for a good two weeks.

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Hotel Hell

It’s Sunday, October 1st and we’re much more relaxed than we were yesterday.

I booked us in originally for the Blair Victoria Hotel via amoma.com …. Which I was directed to from Hotels.com. Two nights for £116.47. We arrived after travelling all morning, couldn’t check in till 2pm so we put down our bags and then went to find food; we checked in at 2.30pm ish and crashed on the bed.

Woke an hour ish later and had a good look around…. And were pretty horrified.

This is the bottom of the door to the en suite. I actually slipped while trying to shower because there was no non-slip flooring and then the water pressure messed up meaning hot/cold and back again. So we gave up on that…

Also i dont want water from this to touch me…. Ever.

The above is the extractor fan in the bathroom.

So we complained and we were moved from floor 3, room 26 (6 sets of stairs btw!) To room 40 in the basement. It was bigger with a better bathroom. Upon closer inspection however….

Black Mould incoming. The beds were damp and we couldn’t have the window open or all we could smell was an overflow pipe.

We spent a good four hours trying to find another room, thankfully MIL is amazing and got us into a new hotel at very short notice.

The stupid thing is that the owners of the previous hotel KNOW about the problems they have because they’re “planning a refit next year”.

I’m now gonna have to fight to get a refund from the place i booked it through (who are saying i have to go through my travel agent…..).

Maybe Judge Rinder could help? 😂

OH ALMOST FORGOT!! The Blair Victoria is 2 stars…. The Collier’s Hotel, that we are now in (who are AMAZING) are a 1 star hotel and are SO MUCH BETTER. I swear this is what it feels like to be in The Ritz.

Problematic Fave & Their Fan-Base

I want to preface this blog post with some notes.

  • I won’t be naming names.  If you read this and know exactly who I’m referencing, I politely ask you don’t comment/tweet with their name.
  • I had receipts on my browser and now I have to re-find them because everything crashed and I had to restore the factory settings – as I find them again, I will add them.
  • When I refer to this person’s fandom; I mean it as a generalisation and not a “everyone in the fandom is like this!”  I have friends in the fandom and they’ve been great with explaining certain things and even greater and understanding the POV from others.
  • This YT-er’s fan base is quite young; MOSTLY early to mid teens.  This is important to remember.
  • I DO NOT, under ANY circumstances, believe that this YT-er is a paedophile. I AM NOT accusing them of that offence.

Read on after the jump for more.

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The Dark Side of BoPo Community – Elitists

I have considered myself a firm member of the body positive community for a rather long time.  I underatand where it came from, how it started and why it was needed.

The rest of this post is going to talk about and weight loss so there’s your content warning and here is the jump…

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The War on …. NIPPLES

Today has been quite the eye opener for me; I know the war on [female] nipples has been waging for quite a while across Facebook and Instagram… Not so much on twitter as long as your tweets are protected… But I guess I had kidded myself that it really wasn’t that bad and maybe… Just maybe, we had made a little progress.  Boy was I wrong.
TW; rape, violence, animal cruelty.
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I opened my Facebook today to check out the goings on and what-not and am greeted by four posts from various animal rights pages containing graphic videos and images of animal cruelty. The video auto played and I will not ever get those sounds or images out of my head. 

Just so you can get an idea (skip past the italicised text to skip the description)

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A [live] dog was hung from a tree by its neck, set on fire and beaten. I cannot actually describe the sounds the poor animal was making but they will be engrained on my brain forevermore.  The pictures were of skinned animals, Fox hunts, A butcher doing his job, A slaughter house.

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I checked out each page these came from.and found more of the same; due to the graphic nature (and trust me I left out A LOT in that little description) I reported the pages and the posts.  I was 100% sure that they violated t&c of Facebook.

I was horribly mistaken.  What does this have to do with nipples? I’m getting there, please bare with me… (No pun intended).

I spend a lot of today researching and looking through pages, the contents of which I need bleach to eradicate from my brain, finding that not one of them violated the t&c.  

So I posted a picture of a nipple. Was it male or female? Who knows? It took exactly four minutes for it to be reported and taken down for nudity and sexual content.

I reposted. More of the same.

Instagram is very similar – they DO remove animal cruelty and some nudity and sexual content but only if the page is public. 

Over the course of today I found that across Instagram and Facebook you are totally allowed to comment about, talk about, discuss and in some cases threaten the following … (But not limited to..)

  • Sexual abuse/threats of sexual violence.
  • Animal cruelty incl explicit pictures and videos, groups & pages.
  • You can be as racist as you like.
  • Pledge allegiance to Hitler/Neo Nazis/White Supremacists/Trump.
  • Pledge allegiance to the KKK.
  • Sympathise with rapists.
  • Post pictures of [graphic] self harm.
  • Join the Westboro Baptist Church.
  • Join a cult.
  • Praise Satan.
  • Be underage flashing flesh and talking sexually with older men/women.
  • Openly post about what drugs you have taken.
  • Talk about crimes you have committed. 
  • Body shame.
  • Be sexist.
  • Be homophobic.
  • Catfish/steal an identity.

However….all of these break t&c, and over the space of the day I’ve talked to many who have reported posts with all these subjects including hate speech and threats of violence.  Not one of the posts were removed and I myself had a four hour “soft ban” on my Facebook where I couldn’t reply to anything /post anything for abusing the report function on posts and posting sexually suggestive pictures I.E. the nipple. Oh you also can’t post any uncencored pictures of breast feeding as that is also seen as sexually suggestive content.

I read an awesome comment on tumblr at the weekend and for the life of me I cannot find it now… “Surely it is men’s nipples that are sexually suggestive as their only function is sexual arousal, whereas a female’s nipples, first and foremost, are used to feed her child and are a sex organ second?”

The whole “war on female nipples” or “nipplegate” is just the sexualization of a female body part that is primarily used to feed our young and only secondary are they a sex organ.  The fact that breastfeeding is seen as sexually suggestive disgusts me. There is nothing sexual about a mother nourishing her child… There’s also nothing more natural.

So you go ahead Facebook and Instagram… Continue to let people be racist/homophobic, let them bully, let them post vulgar and graphic content including dick pics, self harm, animal cruelty etc… 

But beware people…

Don’t EVER post a nipple or the world will collapse in on itself… Because obviously it’s the female nipple that is the root of all evil.

Testing my Patience (Gran issues)

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If a friend pisses you off or treats you like shit and you cut them off or put them in their place (when needed), nobody bats an eye at you…..

But as soon as you do it to a family member everyone loses their god damned fucking minds.

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Anxiety – an unpopular opinion

Seems to me like anxiety is the new bisexual.

Couple of years ago everyone was bisexual (and I’m not talking bicurious cuz I think everyone goes through that at some point) I mean full on bisexual.  It was the “cool” or “in” thing to be.

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Update and…..The dress….

Ok so a quick update. 

My Gran was taken into hospital last night (midnight) with a chest infection, she’s been having episodes where she couldn’t breathe only she hadn’t told us.  She’s on IV anti biotics and in over night tonight. 

Then we get back at like 7 am to a phone call from nanna saying grandad has collapsed again.

He’s been having episodes where he blacks out. He’s fine, dad is at hospital switching between gran and his dad While mum is  sat with nanna Cuz she’s disabled.  To the best of my knowledge they’re just waiting on grandad being discharged back into the car of his GP and awaiting possibly further tests. 

I’ve had four hours sleep which is four hours more than mum and dad have had in 32 hours.   

……..And my entire time line (mostly) is talking about a god damned dress!? It pisses me off more than it should….but seriously if the people debating the colour of a dress were putting that time and energy into solving global warming, world peace,  famine, war, pestilence,  deforestation,  animals going extinct…. We’d be in a much better world. But oh no…. The over exposed picture of an ugly dress is more important.